Belated Happy New Year!
I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas and a great New Year. My Christmas was probably one of my best. EVER! It was full of family and love and of course, delicious food! For those that know me well, that’s very important.
Actually, what makes the food special is that everyone contributes to the cooking, everyone appreciates and savours it, and everyone loves taking the time to be together to eat while we chat and laugh and share. Truly special.
The reason this post is a little later than I had planned is that I have been sick. It has been frustrating. I mean I have literally been fizzing with excitement for the New Year. 2016 was so magical with long hard earned dreams coming true, travelling to Italy again, wonderful relationships, finding new passions in art and work, and way too much more to keep talking about, that I can’t wait to see what happens this year. I was buzzing with inspiration, motivation and dreams I need to make a reality. But I am nearly over it and keen to move forward.
Plans go out the Window
And not only did my plans to write a New Year post go out the window so did my New Year’s Eve plans too. On New Year Eve instead of heading off to a beautiful home in Balmain with views to Sydney Harbour and of course, the fireworks display with family I was kept company by a disgusting cold and a hacking cough bundled on the lounge too lethargic to move far as I waved off my loved ones as they headed out to enjoy the night.
Trying to take on board lessons learnt in previous years I decided to look after myself. Maybe I could have dragged myself along, propped myself in a corner and plied myself with pharmaceuticals but after ending up in hospital a couple of years ago from pneumonia (which developed from untreated flu) I decided I should listen to my body as well as the firm persuasion of my partner, with an evil look in his eye, that I sit my butt down and rest. I don’t think he wanted to go through that experience again!
I guess I could have felt sorry for myself.
But as much as it would have been nice, and I would have liked to be healthy, I was OK with being in my tucked up position on the lounge. My gorgeous partner and son had left a pile of brownies and a bottle of wine beside me to sooth myself with, I had the remote control in hand and Netflix at my beck and call.
I spent the evening indulging in my favourite movies, nibbling and sipping my way through some New Year Spirit and relishing the fact that my partner and son were off together having a great time. Best present I could ask for. Actually, it was better than the best present. You see we are a blended family and my partner came into my son’s life when he was 14, not an easy age. So to watch the two of them get on so well and get the chance to spend some time together (and create memories of their own through shared experiences) was heartwarming for me. And they lovingly included me, sending me pictures of the night including the food (they brought home a care package for me bless them).
And I’ll let you in on a little secret. I am a HUGE introvert. As much as I love spending time with my family, groups of people I don’t know can be a little draining on my energy, so being already depleted, I was a little relieved to be on my own and resting.
Putting things into Perspective
And so that brings me to what 2017 will be for me. It’s all about Perspective.
I mean I think I could be forgiven if I had of been sad about missing out on New Year’s Celebrations. Or for feeling sick. Or for being left on my own. I could have whined and complained.
But when you look at what it was, it was all right. I was safe and cared for and indulged by people that loved me. I had some quiet “me” time to watch movies I love (I love “me” time). I was happy in the knowledge that two people I love so much were together and safe enjoying each other’s company and that my son was surrounded by people who think the world of him and enjoying a wonderful experience. By the way, my son is 17 now and his original New Year’s Eve plan was to go to a party with friends, so I thought this was a much better outcome and far less stressful for me.
Actually, I was pretty lucky don’t you think?
So back to Perspective. This year I am going to be more aware of how I see things. More aware of my perception. To step back from situations if I have to, to re-evaluate rather than react. To get rid of bad habits of reacting first and listening second. And to not assume.
By changing my perspective on things, situations and people I hope to build stronger relationships, think outside the box, do things differently.
I mean shit (sorry!) happens. Life is not a smooth ride, and with family, health issues, business stuff, kids, pets, elderly and frail parents (and anything else you can think of) keeping things in perspective can be difficult. But rather lumping everything into a “life sucks” basket, we can take each thing individually and put it into perspective.
By being aware of my perception, I hope to grow as a person. And I always want to be a better version of myself. Don’t we all?
And the other thing I am focusing on this year is Simplicity. I don’t go in for fuss and bother too much anyway. I hate bullshit (sorry if too strong for you), and I don’t like drama. In fact, I hate drama. For an extremely emotional person, I am a bit no-nonsense. This is what I think if you don’t like something don’t do it. If you don’t like someone, be polite, but don’t be a hypocrite. Not everyone needs to be your friend, but you can always be a decent human being. You can say NO! Yes, you can. You have choices. Make them to suit you. And if you don’t like your situation, change it. Be genuine, I can’t stand fake people.
And I have started practising simplicity in my life by culling excess “stuff” in my home. Donating, tossing out or repurposing things around the house. Clearing out and cleaning up. I tell you it’s therapeutic! I should have done this more years ago!
So in this beautiful year of new perspective and simplicity, I am looking forward to more meaningful relationships both personal and business. Travel, Greece here we come, and hopefully Italy too (and I would like to throw Iceland in there too, but we will see about that one), working in our businesses (which I just LOVE!!) and enjoying the wonderful life we have created for ourselves. Life is good, and it certainly is what you make it.
I wish all of you a year of meaning and purpose and love for this year. Let’s set the intention that 2017 is going to be amazing! I can’t wait to see where this ride takes me! Or where it takes you.