Does that even happen? Can you really make your dreams come true?
Yes, yes, yes. It can and does happen. It happens to me; it happens to others ALL THE TIME.
There are some things you need to know about why this happens to so many people. And why there seem to be just as many lost souls complaining that nothing good ever happens to them.
The following points are what works for me. If I stay true to these key points, big things happen.
- You have to believe that dreams come true.
- It’s all about your perspective
- You need to work on stuff!
- You have to be open to things changing
- Be positive
You have to Believe
I can hear you saying, with a bit of hesitation, “I think dreams can come true”. But you see I heard the hesitation. You said, “I think”. And so did the Universe, but more importantly, so did you way down in your subconscious.
It’s this self-talk that makes all the difference. If you don’t believe something wholeheartedly then how will it happen?
Saying the words isn’t enough. It’s a start, but it is nowhere near enough. You wholeheartedly, boots and all have to believe that dreams can come true.
Here are some of my favourite quotes to get you on your way.
And some food for thought –
If all these people believe that dreams can come true, and have for them, then why can’t they for you? They are no more special, different, magical than you are.
Look around at all the wonderful things that happen in the world each and every day (you may want to turn off the news though because that will have you thinking otherwise) and realise that dreams come true all the time (we will talk about perspective soon).
But like everything, there is no magic wand – only you, hard work and passion.
It’s all about Perspective
It is all about how you look at things.
If you haven’t already read my New Year Post take a look. I could have been miserable and sad for missing out on the New Year’s Eve celebrations with my loved ones because I was sick, but actually, it was a lovely night spent taking care of myself and indulging in some “me” time.
Look, I get it, you have a dream. You can see it in your mind; you can even feel it. And then as it happens, life rambles along, and you get on with it and one day you realise you are actually living that dream, but you nearly miss it.
How can that happen? And why?
Because a dream my not look exactly like you had imagined it. You could have been stubborn and thought, “No this isn’t it”. You could dig your heels in and wait for it all to be exactly as you had envisioned it. But life isn’t like that, and usually what life (or the Universe, or God or whatever you would like to call it) delivers is exactly how it should be, and not how you believed it should be.
Dreams can look different from reality
I was in Italy last year hosting a group for Travel Charm. We stayed in Cortona and Venice. But I wasn’t alone hosting that trip. I was with an artist who I had teamed up with, and the group was a painting group.
As I sat on a wall overlooking the view below Cortona, it dawned on me that I was living the dream that I had dreamt about for the last three years. Why didn’t I see it straight away? Because my dream had been for me to be hosting a group overseas.
The dream I had imagined was slightly different to what was in front of me. But what made at dream work was Kathy, the artist. And how lucky I am that it worked out that way. Not only did I share the experience with someone else but we became fast friends. Our travel styles were the same; we are similar in personality, and she has become an important person in my life.
You see although a dream may not look the same as what you envisioned, it quite often is even better.
Teach yourself to see the good in everything. Find the lessons in the things that test us and appreciate what we have and not focus on what we don’t.
Being truly grateful every day for the small things can make you view things in a different way.
Work on STUFF
Nothing worth having comes easy.
But it is worthwhile. And the work you put in will make you s stronger, better person who will go on to reap the rewards over and over.
So what stuff do you need to work on? Of course, that will be different for everyone. But here’s something I found that I had to do.
I yearned for a meaningful, healthy, equal relationship. Like a lot of us yearn for. I definitely knew what I didn’t want; I had had enough of that. So instead I focused on what I did want. And I wrote it down.
I know others who have done this, and it has worked brilliantly! Write a letter. You can be as precise as you like – yearly income, looks, career – but what you must do is focus on what is most important to you.
So did my letter work straight away? No.
It took 12 months to happen. And I did have to experience another relationship in between. Initially, I was confused. That relationship was not what I had written down or envisioned.
I started to doubt that these things worked. But in the end that relationship was the best thing that could have happened. Without realising it, I had been allowing myself to be treated in a similar way as the in the past. Being demeaned, kept down and unsupported. Behaviour that I realised I had allowed to happen over and over again throughout my life.
I had enough and started standing up for myself. I created boundaries of what I would accept and what I wouldn’t, and in the end, I realised that relationship was a learning curve, not a permanent life choice.
Two weeks after ending that relationship and feeling incredibly good about myself I met my partner. He is wonderful, and our relationship is everything plus more than I could have ever imagined. And every word I wrote in that letter is true about him.
You may wish for that person to come into your life, but are you the right person for them? Are you the right person for yourself? Why do we expect Mr Wonderful to walk through the door if we are less than Mrs Wonderful?
Do you feel good about yourself? Are you happy with who you are and comfortable in your own skin? Because let’s be frank here, if you don’t like yourself and treat yourself kindly and with respect why should anyone else? Become the person you would want to be with, and you will attract the right person.
Work on you first. Become the best version of yourself you can be. Love who you are and know the value you bring to this world and the rest will follow.
Remember your happiness is no one else’s responsibility. Only yours. You cannot pin your happiness on someone else. That simply is not fair. Make it your responsibility and go for it!
Be Open to Things Changing
Yes, I know you think you are, but really, are you?
Years ago I was planning a huge family trip to the United States and Europe. It involved three different itineraries for various family members, and we would be away for two and a half months. It was a huge trip, and I was so excited.
At that stage, my kids were 14 and ten so to keep them up to date and a part of the planning I bought a big map of the world and laminated it and with markers drew the flight paths on it and traced our path across Europe.
I stuck it to the wall in the kitchen right near the breakfast table so that we could look at it and discuss it.
During that time we hosted an End of Season BBQ for my son’s cricket team and one of the mums asked about it. So I told her all about the trip. She said, “You are so lucky”. So I asked if she had any plans to travel.
These were her reasons for never contemplating going overseas with her children:
- She couldn’t afford it. She had a mortgage to pay (so did we).
- What if something happened?
- The kids were too young to travel (they were 10 & 8).
- Maybe when the kids were grown, and they were retired (She wasn’t 40 yet).
It made me realise that what some perceive as luck, others just go out and do. I chose not to pay the extra money on the mortgage and put it towards a travel experience instead.
I wanted to give my kids the chance to travel, to educate them, broaden their horizons and create memories that would last forever.
And I would deal with any issues and problems that travelling with kids can entail if and if they happened. The kids were great travellers and to be honest I never really thought about what could go wrong. We were having too good a tie to even contemplate it.
My mind was open to the endless possibilities travelling provides.
Be brave, be fearless. Life only comes around once. I had purposely backed myself into a corner with that trip, knowing if I gave myself a choice I wouldn’t do it. Fear and anxiety had ruled my life, but I was sick of it.
I wanted to travel.
Once I started to fuel the flames of that desire I didn’t stop. I started talking about it and paying deposits and promising the kids. There was no backing out. And I focused on the excitement not the problems.
I don’t believe in putting up barriers. In fact, it frustrates me so much when I share a dream I have with someone (my mother is good at this), and they say “How are you going to do that?” I don’t know! I never know and yet once I open myself to the possibility of something, and I believe in it and steadily work towards it, it has a tendency to happen.
The best things that have happened to me in life had no specific plans. They just flowed from the mere fact that I was open to things. Dreamt about them. Thought about them constantly.
I love looking back at how things came about and shake my head at how the most beautiful things always came out of left field.
That can be a little difficult at times. Life has ups and downs and curves and bends and sometimes when things happen it can feel like everything in your life is bad. But it’s not.
If you just take each occurrence as an individual thing, it becomes easier to deal with.
A lot of people make it a habit of being negative. And believe it or not, you can break that habit. Any habit can be broken with practice. But first, you need to acknowledge it.
You’ve heard people say (or even said it yourself), “What else could go wrong?”, “I just need some good luck for a change”, “Why does bad stuff always happen to me?”
You get the meaning. Look, I know bad stuff happens and sometimes numerous things can happen at once. But take a deep breath, take each thing as it comes, and deal with things one thing at a time.
The saying “This too shall pass” is true. Breath, take the time to notice the good because it’s not far away. You just have to look for it.
This has been a big lesson for me. Impatient by nature, showing any patience for anything is a struggle. I am usually someone that makes up her mind to do something and just go ahead.
But thankfully life has different ideas. And I have learnt (and am still learning) to be patient.
I plan, write, dream and talk about the things I want to do. And then I let it go. Actually, I hand it over to the Universe to take care of for me. I have learnt to not push, go with the flow and rely on my gut feeling. I do the dreaming and focus on the outcome. Never on the process of how to get there. That just takes care of itself.
I can happily report that the journey (the one where I started to listen to myself) has been wonderful and life has been blessed.
I keep notebooks and folders for my dreams and frequently write about them, keep pictures of the things I love and focus on being grateful for what I have and I have learnt to live in the moment.
Being a born organiser and planner that’s not always easy, but I have just learnt to use those skills in a different way.
I love this book and have read it numerous times and each time I get something new from it. Let me know what you think.
“Have you noticed that sometimes what you need just falls into place? Perhaps you’ve met the perfect client or life partner merely by being at the right place at the right time. On the other hand, there are some people who find themselves in one terrible relationship after another or who seem unable to shake off their bad luck. These experiences are evidence of a very powerful force. It’s called the Law of Attraction.”
What to do Next
If you want to start turning your Dreams into Reality then here’s a good place to start.
Open your mind and see what’s out there. For one week don’t read or watch anything negative (no news!). Read positive articles, real stories of people triumphing, and think about what it is you want in life.
What do you really want? And why.
Good luck and have fun dreaming.
Make them big!